heart: hurt until you heal

Healing doesn’t mean we get rid of what has happened. We don’t undo the trauma, we don’t ‘right’ the ‘wrongs.’ These wounds don’t disappear.

Instead, we learn to carry our hurt. We stop ignoring it, we stop hiding it, resenting it, pushing it down deeper. We stop letting it weigh us down. We learn strength, we learn resilience. We learn how to carry it.

And maybe sometimes it creeps back up, it becomes heavier. Maybe days later, maybe months or years or decades. But maybe that is the nature of healing - the process. Maybe there’s more of it that we need to work through. Maybe there’s more to learn, more we need to understand, more for us to learn to carry.

As we grow older, as we mature and become more whole versions of ourselves maybe we need to understand the destruction on a different level. Maybe as we learn to value ourselves, the trauma is highlighted again - acknowledging how hard that was, how wrong that was, how important it is that we know our worth, and that we know we are worthy of healing.

And maybe this pain revisits us as necessity. I heal, and you heal. And together, we heal.

Let’s carry our hurt and our healing, side by side. Not forgetting where we have been, not forgetting this tender center of our pain, of our experiences. But rather, let’s reach out and lift up - extending all that we have learned. Standing tall in our resilience so that we can help those making their way here, too.

We hurt until we heal.